When I tattooed love is life on me, I was aware of the judgment I would receive. To many the tattoo seemed impulsive and naïve. I just wanted to shed some light on my perception of life and hopefully alleviate any misunderstanding.
I have always questioned the purpose of life and my own. My…
MOTHER’S DAY- CLOSING REMARKS AND LAST MINUTE SMIRKS!
I shaved all of my grandmother ‘s hair off… by request of course but it didn’t happen right away.I remember when I first shaved mine she looked at me and said “Kayla, wah yu try fi do?” Which was her way of saying “ARE YOU NUTS?”From first glance she thought I was just trying to be the rebellious teenager that I was once perceived as. But she quickly began to notice that I hadn’t shaved my head to be rebellious or to even be fashionable for that matter, it was more of a move towards self esteem and to alter the stereotypical idea of beauty that was engraved into my mind.It wasn’t too long after (2 days to be exact) that she came up to me as said “ Can yu shave mine fi me?”I’m not going to lie I was pretty surprised!
Since then neither of us has cut our hair and we’re both almost 5 months in to our natural hair journeys.I respect my grandmother, for everything she’s done for me, taught me and criticized me about because she is wise and I value her opinion.But more importantly I respect the fact that she learns from me just as much as I have learned from her. “A wise woman never stops learning, progressing or changing.”
This Mother’s Day I think it is important for us to understand that the bonds we share with our mothers/aunties/grandmothers and sisters are invaluable assets to the women we become.And that we as women should never put ourselves in a position to be close-minded or jaded from the advice we receive from the women who genuinely love us.The best journeys are those we can experience and share a piece of it with them and I couldn’t be happier then to share a larger part of it with her. Nurturing doesn’t just have to be a concept that works from top to bottom; it can and should also be practiced from the bottom to the top as well so don’t be afraid to lead by example! Happy Mothers Day Nana and happy *almost* 5 months natural.
“A BEAUTIFUL DISASTER”- Why I Choose to Embrace My Natural Hair
A short film and poem I wrote to highlight the struggles that many black women face when it comes to embracing our natural hair texture and that despite living in a society that often places nappy and unattractive in the same category, we too are BEAUTIFUL NATURALLY.